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If Moms Put in Resumes

I’ve been a stay at home mom for going on three years now. Let me tell you — it isn’t as easy as it’s cracked up to be. In fact, just being completely honest, it’s flipping hard. I went into my current “gig” thinking it would be a cinch; that I would be able to get SO MUCH DONE with all that FREE TIME I’D HAVE. Pftttttt. What is free time?! And y’all, I’m getting next to nothing done these days. Do you want to know when I’ve actually been able to achieve any of my housework/me-time goals? It was the three-month span between Connor starting pre-k in August and Mason’s birth in December of 2017.

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I got SO MUCH DONE. No, seriously. My house was clean. The baby’s room had (relatively) effortlessly come together. My laundry was largely kept up with. I SHOWERED DAILY. Hell, I even made it to the gym almost every day in those three months. It was amazing. And it all ended as quickly as it began. I don’t know what sparked my post-partum baby blues faster: the fact that my productivity levels would abruptly stop or the crashing hormones. In truth? Probably knowing that my house would, once again, be on permanent upheaval.

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I’m going to be real with you guys right now: I’m not a Mary Poppins, spoonful-of-sugar kind of mom. Nope. I’m definitely a weird mixture of Roseanne and Debra from Everybody Loves Raymond (minus the awful in-laws. I legitimately love my in-laws). My kids can attest to the fact that I put the “bear” in “momma bear”. With that said, three years in and I’m still not adjusted to this SAHM lifestyle. It’s just not something my personality type knows how to handle. And you know what? I’ve come to realize that’s okay.

Anyway, I’ve said all that to get to this: I’m very much looking for a job. Any job. I don’t care if it’s Hobby Lobby’s day-shift, I’ve got to have some Sarah-time, adult interaction before I blow a fuse. Unfortunately, my search has turned up a whole lot of nothing. I had an interview a few weeks ago for a school secretarial position, but the job was given to someone else with prior experience in that particular “field”, which — I get it. Really, I do. Total bummer and hit on the ego, but I understand why the decision had been made.

But that got me to thinking about maybe fixing up my resume, which got me to thinking, “What if moms put in resumes? What might that look like?”

This inquiry resulted in a surprisingly difficult-to-answer response. What makes moms tick? What makes us special? What makes us the so-called “glue” of the family? I don’t know about y’all, but I have a super hard time coming up with adjectives for myself — even those that are somewhat obvious. I also have a hard time giving myself credit where it is due. I’m the poster-child for being one’s worst critic. What I came up with was slightly humorous (not guffaw-worthy, obviously) and a little cliche. Okay, a lot cliche. But this little accidental exercise also helped me realize and remember some of my pre-mom self-worth. I was definitely given pause towards the end of my quick-ish presentation.

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Long story short: it’s hard being any kind of mom. At least, it’s hard if the mom in question is actually doing the “momming”. For me, personally, it’s hard because most of my mom friends work, live out of town, or have conflicting schedules. Sure, I have a tribe — but it’s a busy one. I can’t expect them to slow down to keep up with my pace. It’s also because my husband is gone Monday through Friday practically every week; the boys take that so hard and I really believe a lot of our week-to-week issues are because they just miss their dad. It’s because I went from being an independent, 3-job-working, college student to being a full-fledged mom. Obviously, this wasn’t an overnight occurrence, but y’all know how time flies. Gabe will be nine in August, and Connor five. I still vividly remember the days they were born. To further frost that cake, Mason will have his first birthday in December. My caboose baby is definitely not tee-tiny anymore and that hurts. It’s because I have literally craved peer-interaction since I was a toddler; it’s a weakness, I know — but that’s just part of my personality. Finally, I need to feel productive and worthwhile. I need to feel like I’m contributing to the cause and like I’m not just a glorified butt-wiper and toilet cleaner.

Is being a momma important? Absolutely. I love my boys; they are my heart. I’ve long-fought this, shall we say “demon”, of mine for a long time. Being a mom is part of who I am, now. And I love that. But this feeling that maybe I can find part of my old self in the chaotic toy-bin that is my head these days? That gives me some hope.

What would your mom resume look like?

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28 thoughts on “If Moms Put in Resumes”

  1. I’ve been a SAHM for 7 years and making time to create is what keeps me sane. I love blogging I love public speaking I love being an author. It took a while to get to the place where I didn’t feel guilty taking time for myself to do things that fulfilled me outside of my family. With that being said I would add to my mom resume able to clean a blowout diaper efficiently while helping my husband (business partner) not have a meltdown. 😂

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  2. I’ve always wondered how being a stay at home mom would be. I personally know I wouldn’t be able to do. I run my own business and take care of the majority of the kids stuff and wonder how I do it most days!

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    1. It’s hard being largely alone. My kids are great but not the best conversationalists (unless it’s about Minecraft or Paw Patrol), and over the summer they argue like crazy. It’s maddening! It was hard being a working mom and I was cutting deadlines close, but I had some sense of comradery, and that helped me immensely mentally.

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  3. AHHH YES! Amen to this!!! I may not do as much at home like other Moms because of work but ahhh some days I just feel like I wish I earn 3x more so I can get the help that I need to get everything accomplished.

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  4. Being a mama is one tough job! As a single mom of over 10 years, that was definitely rough! Wish I got paid to stay home and be full time SAHM, instead of having to juggle it all. Tough work for sure!

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  5. This is just awesome. Lol mine would look just like this plus exceptional boo boo kisser. I was a sahm for an entire year and I went bananas. I loved it and all but i went stir crazy. Being a sahm is definitely hard work!!!

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  6. Haha, I totally know where you’re coming from. I gave up my career to stay at home after my last of 3 was diagnosed with ASD. It’s been 3 years and I’ve had moments where I was going to lose my mind if I didn’t do something for me. Luckily I’ve been able to pick up some hobbies that really help, and I’m a part-time makeup artist so I still get some sort of “work/Me-time”. LOVE the resume haha, I would make my skills section an entire page for sure!

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    1. My oldest is on the spectrum (sensory processing) and even though we’ve largely adjusted to it, we’re still have rough days. I’ve seen some of your photos on Insta– you’re super talented! My skills section definitely could have been a page – lol! It’s amazing what you pick up when you become a mom.

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  7. This is great! I love the resume. Ive been at hime for less than a year, my son is 2.5 and my second is due in a few months. I totally relate to not finding time. Especially because the little bit of time I do find, i sometimes end up falling asleep. Oops!

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  8. I absolutely love this! Although I am not a SAHM, I think this should be a high- paying career. The knowledge and skill set that you need is unmatched. Most people manage adults with degrees but you have to manage infants and toddlers that don’t know the first thing about school yet lol. This is a great way of advocating for SAHM!

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    1. Thank you so much! It can be extremely mentally, physically, and emotionally draining. As we speak, I just issued out my nightly bedtime threats (haha!) but I know that in about an hour I’ll be looking in on them and loving them more than I did yesterday. Motherhood is hard and the “reward” comes later, but I know it’s worth it.

      I’m not easily offended, but some days I wish the go-to SAHM stereotype would fade into the background. I’m not comparing what I do to neuroscience or astrophysics, but I’m trying my best to raise future neuroscientists and astrophysicists! Lol. Or, at the very least, little guys who WON’T be male strippers.🤣

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